stop with the excuses..

The world tells us that we need to be perfect now, that it is the only way to find *true* happiness, and that it can be achieved if we do this or buy that. I'd like to say that as a society we've identified the myth of perfection, that we've clued on to this 'reality' being nothing more than a greedy man's created fantasy, but I'm really not so sure.

We've rejected airbrushing. Yes! We now easily spot the magic of Photoshop. Fab! We've demanded that the beauty and fashion industries stop selling 'perfect'. About time! But the question that rises is, if we're so hell bent on demanding they normalise imperfection, how come we still don't expect it from ourselves?

We appear to have rejected the myth of perfection, but in it's place have become obsessed with excusing ourselves every time we don't reach it. Each day my social media feed is bombarded with women excusing their flaws as often as they breathe.

'Please excuse the filter, I'm looking horrible today.'

'Please excuse the pyjamas, I'm working from home.'

'Please excuse the face, I'm having a break out.'

Well, please don't excuse my bluntness, beautifully-imperfect women, because this needs to STOP.

We are human and having flaws and imperfections is part of the deal. We need to start rocking them like nobody is watching because what does it matter if they are? We need to accept them because the world sure isn't going to do it for us. Let's prove to ourselves and everybody else flaws are not only OKAY but that they are the reality.

Don't excuse the grubby look, it's fully intended.

Most of my instastories look like me talking in my dressing gown and I refuse to excuse it. That thing is snuggly as and I'm not getting out of it for the sake of appearances. If someone wants to judge me for it, then that's sad for them.

We have got to stop being perfection-obsessed-flaw-excusing-people-pleasers because it is exhausting, and serves everyone, but ourselves.

Flaws are what makes us unique and gives our lives colour and meaning. We fall and learn and then we do it again. And again. And again.

Its time to let go of the need to excuse our flaws, and replace them with blunt, courageous acceptance for our lives: magnificently flaw filled.